Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity
Todd Creager is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship coach with over 30 years of experience helping couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
In this podcast, Todd talks openly about love, sex, and infidelity with married and long-term couples who want real answers. Drawing from decades in practice, he shares practical advice, relatable stories, and honest guidance to help you work through challenges and create the relationship you actually want.
Whether you're dealing with communication breakdowns, intimacy issues, trust after infidelity, or just want to reconnect with your partner, Todd's warm, no-nonsense approach gives you tools you can use right away.
Episodes
286 episodes
#287 | Sexual Performance Anxiety in Men: Why Trying Harder Makes It Worse
Nothing is physically wrong, yet the moment sex starts to matter, your body stops cooperating. Why?In this solo episode, Todd Creager, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship coach with more than 30 years in practice, ope...
#286 | Why Talk Therapy Alone Didn't Work for You
You can name the wound. You can trace it back to where it started. So why does the same nerve still get hit, and why do you still react the same way?In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager talks about a ...
#285 | 42 Years Married: The Protective Parts That Show Up in My Own Marriage
What if the reaction you have with your partner isn't really you — it's a part of you doing a job it took on when you were five years old?In his yearly anniversary episode, Todd Creager marks 42 years of marriage by turning the lens on h...
#284 | The Body Remembers: Somatic Clues That Your Parts Have Activated
Your partner hasn't finished the sentence yet, and your stomach has already dropped. Your jaw is clenched. There's a tightness across your chest that wasn't there ten seconds ago. That isn't stress. That's a part of you speaking through your bo...
#283 | How Childhood Shame Shows Up in Adult Intimacy: Exiles, Protectors, and the Way Through
Your partner reaches for you, and something inside pulls back. Not all of you. A part of you.In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager talks about the young part that decided long ago that if anyone got cl...
#282 | Why I Combine EMDR and IFS to Help You Heal from Trauma Faster
What happens when trauma therapy stalls, even when you're doing everything right? In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager pulls back the curtain on how he works with clients, and why pairing two respected appro...
#281 | Self-Led Parenting: How to Stop Reacting and Start Leading From Calm
Why does your child's meltdown sometimes bring out a version of you that sounds exactly like your own parent?Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager breaks down self-led parenting, a concept rooted in Internal Family Systems, and why ...
#280 | When Your Partner Triggers You: The Hidden Part of You That's Really Reacting
Why does a small comment from your spouse sometimes set off a reaction that feels way bigger than the moment calls for? Todd Creager, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 30 years of experience, breaks down what's actually happeni...
#279 | Why Your Partner Goes Silent: Understanding Stonewalling Through an IFS Lens
When your partner shuts down in the middle of a hard conversation, it's easy to read it as punishment — as coldness, stubbornness, or not caring. What if that's almost never what's actually happening?In this episode, Todd Creager — Licen...
#278 | You're Not Fighting Your Spouse — Here Are the 3 Parts That Are
What if the fight you keep having with your spouse isn't really about dishes, money, or who said what last Tuesday? What if the two of you aren't even fighting each other at all?In this solo episode, Todd Creager — licensed Marriage and ...
#277 | Why Trying Harder Is Making Your Marriage Worse
What if the thing you've been doing to fix your relationship is actually what's keeping it stuck?Most couples hit a wall. You've read the books, planned the date nights, promised to listen better — and somehow you're still in the same sp...
#276 | The Inner Critic in the Bedroom — What's Really Blocking Your Desire
What if the thing getting in the way of your sex life isn't a physical problem — it's a protective one?In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager takes a candid, grounded look at what happens when your inne...
#275 | What Your Jealousy Is Really Protecting You From
Is jealousy making you feel out of control — or controlling? Before you try to talk yourself out of it, it's worth understanding what it's actually doing for you.In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager t...
#274 | Why You Shut Down During Conflict (It's Not What You Think)
Do you go blank, get quiet, or feel like you've completely left your body the moment conflict shows up in your relationship? There's a reason that happens — and it has nothing to do with not caring.In this solo episode, Todd digs into on...
#273 | The Hidden War Inside a Cheater's Body — And How It Steals Your Peace
What does cheating actually do to the person doing it?Most conversations about infidelity focus on the betrayed partner — and for good reason. But in this episode, Todd Creager turns the lens inward, looking at what happens inside the bo...
#272 | How Cheating Robs You of the One Thing You Actually Need
Have you ever wondered why someone who's having an affair can still feel profoundly alone?In this episode, Todd Creager continues his series on how cheating cheats the cheater — and this time he looks at one of the deepest costs of infid...
#271 | How Cheating Cheats the Cheater: What Infidelity Really Costs You
What if the person most harmed by an affair isn't the one who was betrayed — but the one who did the betraying?In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager returns to one of his most talked-about topics: the ...
#270 | What Your Attachment Style Is Actually Doing in the Bedroom
What happens between you and your partner in bed may have less to do with technique and more to do with how you're wired for connection.In this solo episode, Todd Creager — licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 30 years of exp...
#269 | Why Willpower Fails in Sex and Intimacy — And What Actually Helps
What if the part of you that shuts down sexually — or the part that keeps reaching for porn — isn't a character flaw? What if it's trying to protect you?In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager explains w...
#268 | Why Betrayal Feels Like a Life-or-Death Trauma — and What's Really Happening Inside You
If you've discovered a partner's affair and wondered why the pain feels like it might actually kill you, you're not overreacting. In this episode, Todd explains exactly why betrayal trauma hits so deep — and what healing actually looks like.
#267 | Why You Keep Having the Same Fight — And How to Finally Stop
Do you and your partner keep circling the same argument, no matter how many times you've tried to resolve it? The problem might not be what either of you is saying — it might be who is actually doing the talking.In this solo epi...
#266 | The Civil War of Betrayal: Why You Love Them and Want to Leave at the Same Time
After discovering a partner's affair, many people ask the same question: Am I going crazy? You love this person deeply — and part of you wants to walk out the door. That contradiction isn't a sign something is wrong with yo...
#265 | The Venus Fly Trap: Love, Borderline Personality Disorder, and the Relationships That Change You
What draws someone back to a relationship they know is hurting them — and what does it take to finally walk away?In this episode, Todd sits down with author and spiritual counselor Stephen Paul Edwards, whose memoir The Venus Fly Tra...
#264 | Is It Insecurity—Or Is It Manipulation? How to Tell the Difference in Your Relationship
What if the "insecurity" you've been working so hard to reassure isn't insecurity at all?In this solo episode, Todd Creager—a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 30 years of experience—walks you through one of the most confu...
#263 | Why You Cannot Move On After Being Lied To: Cognitive Dissonance Explained
You know they lied. You've seen the evidence. So why can't you just move on?In this episode, Todd addresses one of the most painful experiences in relationships: loving someone who has betrayed your trust through infidelity or other seri...