Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity

#254 | How to Rebuild a New Identity After Cheating on Your Partner

Todd Creager Episode 254

In this revealing episode, relationship expert Todd Creager tackles the profound identity crisis that occurs when infidelity is discovered. If you've betrayed your partner, you're not just facing relationship damage—you're confronting fundamental questions about who you are.

Todd guides listeners through five essential questions for identity rebuilding: Who am I now that I've betrayed my values? Can I become trustworthy again? Is change possible? What does recovery look like for serial betrayers? And do I need professional help?

Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Todd offers a compassionate yet honest roadmap for those looking to rebuild after betrayal. He explains how recovery isn't just about stopping behaviors, but about becoming curious about all parts of yourself and finding new ways to meet your needs without secrets or betrayal.

Whether you've betrayed once or multiple times, this episode provides practical insights for moving from compartmentalization toward wholeness, from shame toward integration, and from secrecy toward authentic connection.


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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com


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